It’s Okay to Make Mistakes in Your 20s

If you’re carrying shame about your 20s, I want you to take a breath.

You were learning.

Your 20s are not meant to be polished. They’re meant to be formative. They’re where you test boundaries, make questionable choices, fall in love with the wrong things, and slowly learn who you are by discovering who you’re not.

Mistakes in your 20s do not disqualify you from growth. They qualify you for wisdom.

Your 30s are not about erasing the past. They’re about integrating it. Taking everything you learned, even the hard parts, and using it with intention.

This is the decade where discernment replaces urgency. Where confidence becomes quieter. Where you stop confusing intensity with alignment.

You don’t have to punish yourself for not knowing then what you know now. That’s the point of time passing.

Growth isn’t about perfection. It’s about pattern recognition. It’s about noticing what no longer serves you and choosing differently without needing to prove anything.

Your 20s taught you lessons.
Your 30s let you apply them.

There is no expiration date on becoming someone you respect.

And there is no timeline for getting it “right.”

You are not behind.
You are arriving with context.

Your 30s are a time for growing from your experiences, not regretting them.

And that is a powerful place to stand.